If you are different, people won't let you be yourself in any manner and will always sneak in to your life in every possible way they can. If we put aside all the other nonsense you have to hear through your entire youth; the main goal in your life (despite doing an earning job) is getting married and have children. After that, they'll advice you on positioning yourself in bed in order to complete a fruitful sex experience that would definitely seed a child. Once you are done, these people won't satisfy enough staying there. After a year or two, they want you to have the second one. Maybe they'll advice you on how to make the baby in different sex than earlier by using ways you've never heard of. It will even not stop there. Then it's about how to select a better school for that child, where are the best (looking?) doctors, where to buy the best food, and soothsayers around the country who correctly predict what's wrong with the child and so on and so on...
Being child-free doesn't relieve you from any of that. Same problems will trouble you in different formats. It's even worse since your choice makes others nervous. And it's the most fundamental thing in their problem against you. But they will never talk about it. Probably they never even understand it. It's about the choice. A vast majority of people are living in a modeled life they are given at birth. They have even perfected it while growing in. They make very little obvious choices through-out their entire life. Hence, when they see someone having a different choice of living, it makes them terribly miserable. And they counter attack brutally by judging and pointing. Probably continuously reporting how good and complete their lives are compared to yours. They kind of enjoy repeating the same thing. If you see carefully, you'll easily understand that most of them are only good at that, rather than living an ordinary life. They want to know other's stuff and spread them. A way of life lived by our ancestors since long time ago. Well, if you don't understand any of this, it doesn't matter. You too are probably in the same pool and I don't want to argue. Because nothing matters.
My best friend at office is working at a different section and the countless chats between us are mostly about people at office. A little "Linda langa sangamaya" if you like to call it but it's between us. She has this neighboring colleague who is a young man; newly married and has become a father about a year ago who is a 'Cheeththe' by her definition. He's all nosy about she and me being good friends. Actually this friend of mine was the first person who helped me to mingle with this office after I got transferred here and she was a good friend since then. The taste for movies made the friendship a sustaining one. Her neighboring fellow is nosy about she being a friend of mine because I do not have many friends at office.
Sorry if I got off topic but believe me it's all here to set the background. This is just one person. There's more and I probably will not talk about them here. Recently, this fellow has asked her whether I drink with my wife. She knows I do but she just had asked him back to inquire me directly if he has anything to know about my family. She told me the story furiously with a hateful tone. She is not married and having a relationship with a person. In a nutshell, she also is living a life with a choice. This neighboring fellow has a problem with people with choice.
Few months back he had a problem with me because I watch so many movies. He told he don't have any time to watch a movie because he has to take care of his child when he's at home. And now he has the urge to know whether I drink with my wife. And he's just the perfect example of the many people you'd find around.
They have this blistering problem with people who live by a choice. They want to know what those "Odd" people get by being "Odd". They want to know why they are not satisfied even while having everything the standard model of life expects.
They have a huge J against people with a choice.
To be Continued ...
